If you’re a female who has never tried a sex toy, I have to say that you are missing out! What’s more, it’s also perfectly normal to feel nervous about purchasing your first toy. Just remember that you are the only one who is in charge of your body. If you’ve always been interested in toys but were too ashamed to buy them, keep in mind that nothing can stop you!
I was also incredibly nervous before I ordered my first dildo. However, I realized that there’s no use in waiting and struggling with my orgasms. As a woman in my late 20s, I suddenly realized that life was too short. It used to take me a long time to climax. That was quite frustrating for my partners and me. And so I ordered a beginner dildo.
My first dildo was around 5 inches long, and it was enough for me at the time. Primarily, the goal was to insert it into my vagina and stimulate my clit to test my erogenous zones. It allowed me to get in an experimental mindset and explore pleasant sensations. My experience with my dildo allowed me to understand my body and my vagina much better.
Therefore, I have to say that you should always consider why you need a dildo in the first place. Is it for vaginal penetration, orgasm improvement, stretching, anal play, clitoral stimulation, or a mix of all these things? Do you intend to use it on your own or with a partner? Think about these questions before you get a first-time dildo. They will influence the type of toy that you will buy.
Usually, I advise most novices to begin with a smaller dildo. Even if you’re tempted, don’t reach for the biggest dong in the sex toy store. It may not be so comfortable, even if you’re used to a big penis. Small models are perfect beginner dildos. You can view them as a step up from masturbation and fingering. They can feel pleasant for frequent as well as long-term use.
What’s more, the size also depends on your vagina. If you have some experience, think about the sensations that you liked the most during penetration. That includes a feeling of fullness, stretching, or even internal stimulation of the G-spot. That will give you some ideas regarding the thickness and length of the toy.
If you liked the sensation of intense fullness during penetration, it’s smart to start with a 1.5-inch diameter. But, if you did not like that feeling during sex and preferred the penis to stimulate a particular spot inside you, it is best to use smaller measurements. I recommend a diameter of less than 1 inch in this case. And for the length, it’s advisable to start with anything from 3 to 6 inches.
If you don’t know anything about dildos, it’s better to do some research before you order one. I ordered mine from lovegasm, since they have plenty of options to choose from. They are available in several types. The safest toys are made out of silicone. This material is body-safe, non-toxic, and long-lasting. These dildos can have different textures, i.e., they can be firm, soft, or squishy. That’s another reason why they are suitable for first-timers, as opposed to glass toys, for instance. They can also feature a realistic look that resembles an erect penis. But, they are also available in non-phallic shapes.
Moreover, they can come in many colors and offer various extra features. For instance, some can vibrate while others can include a pair of testicles. Also, consider the option of a suction cup. This feature allows you to attach the base of the toy to various surfaces. That way, the dildo will stay in place during penetration.
Before you explore all the additional features and options, let me remind you that you should start slowly. Using a tiny beginner dildo will probably not fall short of what you are trying to accomplish.
Even if you prefer big penises, small dildos you can use can also be quite effective. What’s more, even if you make a mistake and purchase a toy that is simply too thin and small, you can always find a use for it. It could be a good “warm-up” toy.
What’s more, could try anal penetration with it as well as other types of stimulation. So think about the features I’ve outlined above and consider the thickness and length of beginner dildos. Lastly, always use water-based lube if you are just starting out.
Dildos are among the best and most effective sex toys for women. They will allow you to become sex-positive and open your world and your body to new experiences. I hope that you can learn from my story and buy the best dildo that suits you! Good luck!